Couples Therapy Can Prevent Divorce And Save A Marriage

 

Couples therapy & relationship counseling can solve many marital problems and prevent a divorce if both partners genuinely want to protect their marriage. Anyone who's ever been married knows the divorce stats are terrifying. In the United States, the divorce rate is almost half the marriage rate. Divorce is so common that some question whether marriage can survive in today's world. People who are having trouble with their marriages may wonder if they should give up on their marriage or try to make it work. Many married people firmly believe that marriage is a sacred institution and has a special place in God's sight. Some religions strictly reject divorce and cohabitation. Religious beliefs certainly shape people's beliefs about the sanctity of marriage. However, a 1999 survey of 3,854 adults in 48 mainland states found that 25% of adults had been divorced at least once in their lifetime and that divorce rates among conservative Christians were higher than those of other believers and atheists. and agnostic turned out to be higher.

Conservative Christian leaders say the statistics are wrong. A possible reason for the disagreement over the statistics is that conservative Christians feel their faith is more likely to oppose divorces than support them. A senior Conservative clergyman countered that many of those interviewed were calling themselves new Christians when they weren't. Regardless of what the true reasons for the statistic are, it's clear that divorce is very common and no demographic is completely immune to divorce.

Therefore, the question of how to deal with marital problems remains. Is giving up and getting a divorce the solution? of course not! Ultimate responsibility for a marriage rests with the spouses, and unless each spouse recognizes their role and responsibility in dissolving the marriage, outside attorneys and marital assistance will not make much of a difference. If one or both parties insist that they are "right," the marriage is less likely to be saved.

If you find yourself in a pattern where two partners are arguing, keeping each other quiet, and one partner is acting violently, one thing is certain: this pattern must be broken to have any chance of reconciliation. It means that it will not. Couples cannot do the same thing over and over and expect different results. Breaking the cycle of always doing the same in an argument or playing the same role in a disagreement starts with each partner taking responsibility for their actions. Even if you acknowledge your role in marital problems and your spouse does not, you are still making positive changes by breaking out of the pattern that keeps the relationship deteriorating. increase. Remember that taking responsibility for your role in a difficult marriage does not mean that you are responsible for everything that happens. It simply means that you are aware that you were involved in the situation. It is up to the spouse to accept their responsibility, but accepting responsibility is a step in the right direction.  

This often confuses the other person and may even lead them to acknowledge their role in the problem. If both partners admit some degree of guilt, at least the air is clear enough to look at each other's problems and make attempts to solve them. At this point, it may be beneficial to seek the help of a certified marriage and family therapist or marriage counselor to address the issue head-on without falling into a destructive pattern of blame and resentment. It's not easy, but with enough dedication, determination, and love, it's doable. A genuine determination to resolve conflicts in a marriage can restore the romance that each partner wants to enjoy in a loving and caring relationship and avoid divorce. If divorce is the only option, every effort should be made to avoid the financial and other hardships of the other party and continue their life journey outside of the relationship.